Omigosh!

This issue happened today...
my son: 3 years old
J- 7 years old
B and M - 8 years old
R- 10 years old

My youngest son and 4 elder cousins are in the main TV room watching Lazy Town. When suddenly "J" closed the television. Of course everyone would react especially B and M.
" Hey! we are watching why did you close the television?"
J: I am going to play the computer ...
My son's yaya : oo nga. si jace din nagwa watch oh.
B and M : yah! you dont have to close the TV when you need to play the computer.

When suddenly "J" slapped herself repeatedly.

Her ate came to her rescue ( "R") .. Kasi naman bakit nyo ba siya inaaway eh.
Yaya: di namin siya inaaway.. sinasabihan lang.

I was not there when it happened. My yaya told me the story coz she was shocked to see "J" slap herself.

I contemplated long and hard. Do I need to tell my sister in law? What if she misinterprets and gets mad at me?
I feel I have this responsibility to tell her as an aunt. So 8pm came and I did texted her.
I was shocked when she said :
"Thanks for the info. Will process this later . Masama talaga ugali nung twins eh at makulit lang talaga ang mga anak ko.

Oh I sense that she's being defensive about her kids already. I dunno I just feel si "J " naman talaga ang mali.

8:30pm she texted me again:
" I talked to her na Baka defensive yaya mo kasi siya din pala nag comment sa mali ni "j" by saying that jace din nanonood. But I told them not to allow "B" and "M" to treat them that way. For this week banned sila to play with the twins. "

I texted: " yah yaya told me that Jace is also watching TV ... but what worries me is that, bakit kailangan saktan ni " J" yung sarili nya pag napagsasabihan. "

alam nyo ba ang sagot?

:"nainis daw kasi siya kasi she felt that sobrang mali yung ginawa nya. Parang against daw lahat . Di sila sanay masigawan. "


hay.. tama ba tong nababasa ko? Bakit parang ok lang yung action nung bata sa kanya? Paano naging defensive ang yaya ko? The reason why yaya told me kasi she felt worried seeing such an act.
Sana maayos pa .. ayoko naman magkaroon ng suicidal na pamangkin pagtagal? !
Ayoko din makakita mga anak ko ng ganyang actions....
hay.. isa sa mga downs ng living in a compound.